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Post by Brian on Apr 4, 2024 0:28:49 GMT
Hello everyone. I was gifted a wonderful guitar. It was a very high end metal playing guitar. I absolutely love everything about it. But.... the person who gave it to me is no longer in my life. I hate to even look at it now. I feel I have to get rid if it. I hate to see such a nice guitar go. I just can't get over that feeling that the guitar has a stained memory. Part of me wants to keep it and write something amazing. Part of me wants to buy a new guitar with the $ from selling this one of I do. Has anyone ever had emotional attachments to guitars like this? What would you do?
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Post by laristotle on Apr 4, 2024 1:07:50 GMT
the person who gave it to me is no longer in my life. I hate to even look at it now. Is that because they passed away? or a falling out?
As a recipient, I would respect the thought of it being passed on to me. Obviously, the giver cared a lot to give it to me.
Especially if it's a high end guitar.
Write about that. Whether it's a about a disappointment or a betrayal of some sort.
That depends on whether you're a forgiving person or not.
The thing is, it's just a guitar. Treat it as such.
Oh, welcome to the forum, if you decide to join.
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Post by Brian on Apr 4, 2024 16:17:50 GMT
To be honest. The guitar was given to me by someone who was my best friend, lover,great mother, person, just an all around amazing woman. She gave me a high-end guitar as a gift. A few months later, she gutted me. Stonecold gone from my life. No explanation or anything. I feel this guitar is... well.. idk what the word is. Every time I look at it,I just get upset. I had to put it in the case and put it in the closet. Part of me wants to leave it for 30 years and then give it to my son. Part of me wants to sell it and by a new guitar and start a new chapter. Part of me wants to make it the guitar I play at our next show and have at it. Idk...
Thank you to everyone who responded.
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Post by laristotle on Apr 4, 2024 18:13:47 GMT
You're giving yourself three choices? Assign each choice two numbers. 1) - 1,2 2) - 3,4 3) - 5,6 Then, roll a die.
If it were me, I'd keep the guitar (if I really like it) and blow the memory of that chick out of my mind.
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Post by stratosphere on Apr 4, 2024 19:32:40 GMT
i will chime in on this...
Will the guitar help or hinder how you process this loss?
If you stow it in the closet and let time pass, and then revisit, will you play it with fond memories or with a sense of sadness attached?
That would be what I would think of in considering how to proceed.
Either way a short period of reflection would be a good choice me thinks.
Good luck man...
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Post by edwardbloom on Apr 19, 2024 23:05:34 GMT
are you familiar with the phrase "the best revenge is living well"?
do you know why it's true, and why it's so important? it's because you move on and have a great life, while not allowing that person to yoke you with the heaviness of their baggage and what they've done. the fact that they did it to YOU is unimportant. what's important is that you don't let it affect you in a negative way. they don't deserve that power over you.
i was once in a similar situation. a woman i loved gave me a guitar for christmas. she ended up doing some terrible things, and we went our separate ways. that guitar did not represent her to me like yours seems to for you. my advice would be to sell it and get something you like even more. if you miss having one of those guitars down the road, you can always buy one yourself.
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Post by Bill h on Apr 28, 2024 15:26:47 GMT
I’m with Edward on this one, sell it, move on.
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