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Post by Die Bullen on Feb 2, 2022 21:48:56 GMT
The doorbell has been ringing all day long today. A package from Costco, one from Amazon 3 different flower deliveries for my wife and then a woman from Health Canada. Apparently, she showed up to check on my daughter to ensure that she is isolating at home and not galavanting around. Wow! I thought that everyone was on their honour once they got home. "There is no honor among the infected! "
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Post by edwardbloom on Feb 3, 2022 2:02:53 GMT
sometimes, you have to do something you know isn't a great idea, so that someone else can see it too. the hope is that once they see it for themselves, they won't want you to do it again. today, i had one of those days. Dare we ask? i have a buddy, who is like a brother to me. i've known him since i was 16 and living on the street. his dad took me in and gave me a place to stay. about 10 years ago, his g/f shot him in the head while he was passed out drunk in his truck. he survived, but he's blind and has some cognitive issues. they couldn't take the bullet out of his brain. about a month ago, the home he was living in closed. he had no where to go, so i took him in until his sister can find another place. she's his only living relative, and she lives in a tiny trailer with her husband. they can't take him in. all day long, he wants to do things that aren't good, and he gets frustrated when i repeatedly stop him. a few things i've let him do because he claims not to remember me telling him 5 minutes ago not to do. sometimes, it's the only thing that seems to work. when i wrote the above that you quoted, he was "lost" in the room next to his. it's only 10x10 and it's nearly empty. i've taught him how to get to the living room at least 100 times in the last week and a half, by giving him anchor points and landmarks. it's a tiny house, and i've re arranged everything to make it easier for him. since letting him find his own way out of there, he now navigates the way i taught him, and he has no difficulties. however, there have been several things similar, and it so far seems to be the only way for him to learn what not to do. i'm used to living by myself, and all this is frustrating the living shit out of me. it just would be alot easier if he would listen to me in the first place, instead of me letting him deal with what ever thing i am helping him to avoid.
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Post by Die Bullen on Feb 3, 2022 2:23:02 GMT
i have a buddy, who is like a brother to me. i've known him since i was 16 and living on the street. his dad took me in and gave me a place to stay. about 10 years ago, his g/f shot him in the head while he was passed out drunk in his truck. he survived, but he's blind and has some cognitive issues. they couldn't take the bullet out of his brain. about a month ago, the home he was living in closed. he had no where to go, so i took him in until his sister can find another place. she's his only living relative, and she lives in a tiny trailer with her husband. they can't take him in. all day long, he wants to do things that aren't good, and he gets frustrated when i repeatedly stop him. a few things i've let him do because he claims not to remember me telling him 5 minutes ago not to do. sometimes, it's the only thing that seems to work. when i wrote the above that you quoted, he was "lost" in the room next to his. it's only 10x10 and it's nearly empty. i've taught him how to get to the living room at least 100 times in the last week and a half, by giving him anchor points and landmarks. it's a tiny house, and i've re arranged everything to make it easier for him. since letting him find his own way out of there, he now navigates the way i taught him, and he has no difficulties. however, there have been several things similar, and it so far seems to be the only way for him to learn what not to do. i'm used to living by myself, and all this is frustrating the living shit out of me. it just would be alot easier if he would listen to me in the first place, instead of me letting him deal with what ever thing i am helping him to avoid. Thank you for sharing but please know that I wasn't intending to pry. All I can say is you are a very special kind of guy to be able to deal with this- I know I couldn't. I really hope that you can find another home for long term care for him soon. I can't imagine that living with you can possibly be anything but a short term stop gap
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Post by george on Feb 3, 2022 3:25:45 GMT
Tires and oil done. Antifreeze and battery good. Back = sore.
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Post by infant on Feb 3, 2022 4:28:54 GMT
Tires and oil done. Antifreeze and battery good. Back = sore. Did you do all the work yourself in this weather? I’ll change tires over myself in the spring and fall but not in the cold. Oil changes are done at the dealership where they will check the battery and antifreeze for me.
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Post by infant on Feb 3, 2022 4:38:26 GMT
i have a buddy, who is like a brother to me. i've known him since i was 16 and living on the street. his dad took me in and gave me a place to stay. about 10 years ago, his g/f shot him in the head while he was passed out drunk in his truck. he survived, but he's blind and has some cognitive issues. they couldn't take the bullet out of his brain. about a month ago, the home he was living in closed. he had no where to go, so i took him in until his sister can find another place. she's his only living relative, and she lives in a tiny trailer with her husband. they can't take him in. all day long, he wants to do things that aren't good, and he gets frustrated when i repeatedly stop him. a few things i've let him do because he claims not to remember me telling him 5 minutes ago not to do. sometimes, it's the only thing that seems to work. when i wrote the above that you quoted, he was "lost" in the room next to his. it's only 10x10 and it's nearly empty. i've taught him how to get to the living room at least 100 times in the last week and a half, by giving him anchor points and landmarks. it's a tiny house, and i've re arranged everything to make it easier for him. since letting him find his own way out of there, he now navigates the way i taught him, and he has no difficulties. however, there have been several things similar, and it so far seems to be the only way for him to learn what not to do. i'm used to living by myself, and all this is frustrating the living shit out of me. it just would be alot easier if he would listen to me in the first place, instead of me letting him deal with what ever thing i am helping him to avoid. You, my friend, are an angel. Wow, what a story. It’s tough to take care of someone with great needs. Hopefully, his sister finds something soon. I’m surprised that the home that closed didn’t help in finding a new place to stay.
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Post by zontar on Feb 3, 2022 4:42:42 GMT
Good lord I didn't know that they called that late- I never got spam calls in the middle of the night. First time that happens I will block all calls after a certain time! Don't be too mad at your daughter- it isn't going to help anything. It could have just as well been you or your wife bringing it into the house. At this point just manage through this I told my wife that I could turn off the ringer on the bedroom phone but she’s worried about what would happen if someone really needed to get a hold of us in a family emergency. It was the first time we ever received one of these spam calls in the middle of the night. We’ve had the odd wrong number in the middle of the night but no more than 2 or 3 in the last 10 years. I remember shortly after I moved out on my own--I had a phone in the bedroom, with the ringer turned off, and one in the living room with it turned on. So if I was awake I'd hear it. If not I wouldn't, unless the caller was very persistent.
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Post by zontar on Feb 3, 2022 4:46:03 GMT
Was up early for an appointment that took few months to arrive. Nothing serious--just normal procedures based on overall health.
So I am exhausted--but after I was able to stop in a music store & some thrift places to check on a case of army bass pedalboard--btu everything was way too big, too small, or it had odd compartments & wouldn't work. But it made me think of an old suitcase we have--so later I'll check if that millwork. But I suspect it may be a bit larger than I'd like. But I may get some foam to pad it out--it could work.
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Post by edwardbloom on Feb 3, 2022 5:00:01 GMT
i have a buddy, who is like a brother to me. i've known him since i was 16 and living on the street. his dad took me in and gave me a place to stay. about 10 years ago, his g/f shot him in the head while he was passed out drunk in his truck. he survived, but he's blind and has some cognitive issues. they couldn't take the bullet out of his brain. about a month ago, the home he was living in closed. he had no where to go, so i took him in until his sister can find another place. she's his only living relative, and she lives in a tiny trailer with her husband. they can't take him in. all day long, he wants to do things that aren't good, and he gets frustrated when i repeatedly stop him. a few things i've let him do because he claims not to remember me telling him 5 minutes ago not to do. sometimes, it's the only thing that seems to work. when i wrote the above that you quoted, he was "lost" in the room next to his. it's only 10x10 and it's nearly empty. i've taught him how to get to the living room at least 100 times in the last week and a half, by giving him anchor points and landmarks. it's a tiny house, and i've re arranged everything to make it easier for him. since letting him find his own way out of there, he now navigates the way i taught him, and he has no difficulties. however, there have been several things similar, and it so far seems to be the only way for him to learn what not to do. i'm used to living by myself, and all this is frustrating the living shit out of me. it just would be alot easier if he would listen to me in the first place, instead of me letting him deal with what ever thing i am helping him to avoid. You, my friend, are an angel. Wow, what a story. It’s tough to take care of someone with great needs. Hopefully, his sister finds something soon. I’m surprised that the home that closed didn’t help in finding a new place to stay. the folks who ran it are old, and i think a combination of health and the real estate market in florida right now were a factor. i have a buddy, who is like a brother to me. i've known him since i was 16 and living on the street. his dad took me in and gave me a place to stay. about 10 years ago, his g/f shot him in the head while he was passed out drunk in his truck. he survived, but he's blind and has some cognitive issues. they couldn't take the bullet out of his brain. about a month ago, the home he was living in closed. he had no where to go, so i took him in until his sister can find another place. she's his only living relative, and she lives in a tiny trailer with her husband. they can't take him in. all day long, he wants to do things that aren't good, and he gets frustrated when i repeatedly stop him. a few things i've let him do because he claims not to remember me telling him 5 minutes ago not to do. sometimes, it's the only thing that seems to work. when i wrote the above that you quoted, he was "lost" in the room next to his. it's only 10x10 and it's nearly empty. i've taught him how to get to the living room at least 100 times in the last week and a half, by giving him anchor points and landmarks. it's a tiny house, and i've re arranged everything to make it easier for him. since letting him find his own way out of there, he now navigates the way i taught him, and he has no difficulties. however, there have been several things similar, and it so far seems to be the only way for him to learn what not to do. i'm used to living by myself, and all this is frustrating the living shit out of me. it just would be alot easier if he would listen to me in the first place, instead of me letting him deal with what ever thing i am helping him to avoid. Thank you for sharing but please know that I want intending to pry. All I can say is you are a very special kind of guy to be able to deal with this- I know I couldn't. I really hope that you can find another home for long term care for him soon. I can't imagine that living with you can possibly be anything but a short term stop gap he can't be by himself, so it needs to be before i go back to work. when i get the call, it will probably be on a friday, expecting me to report the following monday.
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Post by george on Feb 3, 2022 5:37:30 GMT
Tires and oil done. Antifreeze and battery good. Back = sore. Did you do all the work yourself in this weather? I’ll change tires over myself in the spring and fall but not in the cold. Oil changes are done at the dealership where they will check the battery and antifreeze for me. Underground garage in a condo so not very cold.
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Post by spellcaster on Feb 3, 2022 5:49:38 GMT
Edward, I think it's great that you were willing to step up and help when somebody needed a hand. But, it's really not fair that you're the one being asked to deal with this. I'm sure it's had a hell of an impact on your life, and, as you said, something needs to happen before you get called back to your job. I'd suggest that it's time for you to have a frank and open discussion with the guy's sister to explain your dilemma of anticipating being called back to work. You won't be doing yourself or him any favours if you can't go back to your job and keep a roof over your head. Since she's family to him, I think the onus has to be on her to take action - now, and not tomorrow. There must be facilities that offer assisted living situations for people who have brain injuries and require supervised care.It'll be a lot easier to deal with things now, rather than waiting till the last minute when you get a call for work, and the problem needs a resolution over a two-day weekend. I really think you've more than fulfilled any obligation you feel because of things that happened in the past.
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Post by northernboy on Feb 3, 2022 13:06:19 GMT
Didn't sleep well last night. Today is going to be rough.
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Post by Bill h on Feb 3, 2022 13:29:25 GMT
The doorbell has been ringing all day long today. A package from Costco, one from Amazon 3 different flower deliveries for my wife and then a woman from Health Canada. Apparently, she showed up to check on my daughter to ensure that she is isolating at home and not galavanting around. Wow! I thought that everyone was on their honour once they got home. Wow, they actually come to your house and check to make sure your staying home?...........that’s nuts.
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Post by Die Bullen on Feb 3, 2022 13:55:53 GMT
The doorbell has been ringing all day long today. A package from Costco, one from Amazon 3 different flower deliveries for my wife and then a woman from Health Canada. Apparently, she showed up to check on my daughter to ensure that she is isolating at home and not galavanting around. Wow! I thought that everyone was on their honour once they got home. Wow, they actually come to your house and check to make sure your staying home?...........that’s nuts. My BIL and family said that they were doing that in Germany too- sending people around to make sure you are staying home. When we got documented cases (and I say documented because who knows if we ever had undocumented cases???) someone from the county would call occasionally to check in but nobody ever came to the house.
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Post by Die Bullen on Feb 3, 2022 13:56:52 GMT
Going to be a quiet day in the house today (I hope).
Wife and daughter at work and son and other daughter at school.
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Post by infant on Feb 3, 2022 14:38:23 GMT
Edward, I think it's great that you were willing to step up and help when somebody needed a hand. But, it's really not fair that you're the one being asked to deal with this. I'm sure it's had a hell of an impact on your life, and, as you said, something needs to happen before you get called back to your job. I'd suggest that it's time for you to have a frank and open discussion with the guy's sister to explain your dilemma of anticipating being called back to work. You won't be doing yourself or him any favours if you can't go back to your job and keep a roof over your head. Since she's family to him, I think the onus has to be on her to take action - now, and not tomorrow. There must be facilities that offer assisted living situations for people who have brain injuries and require supervised care.It'll be a lot easier to deal with things now, rather than waiting till the last minute when you get a call for work, and the problem needs a resolution over a two-day weekend. I really think you've more than fulfilled any obligation you feel because of things that happened in the past. ^^^^^^^^^^ This!!!!! +1
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Post by Bill h on Feb 3, 2022 14:43:10 GMT
Edward, I think it's great that you were willing to step up and help when somebody needed a hand. But, it's really not fair that you're the one being asked to deal with this. I'm sure it's had a hell of an impact on your life, and, as you said, something needs to happen before you get called back to your job. I'd suggest that it's time for you to have a frank and open discussion with the guy's sister to explain your dilemma of anticipating being called back to work. You won't be doing yourself or him any favours if you can't go back to your job and keep a roof over your head. Since she's family to him, I think the onus has to be on her to take action - now, and not tomorrow. There must be facilities that offer assisted living situations for people who have brain injuries and require supervised care.It'll be a lot easier to deal with things now, rather than waiting till the last minute when you get a call for work, and the problem needs a resolution over a two-day weekend. I really think you've more than fulfilled any obligation you feel because of things that happened in the past. ^^^^^^^^^^ This!!!!! +1 I think spell is spot on on this one as well.
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Post by infant on Feb 3, 2022 14:44:17 GMT
The doorbell has been ringing all day long today. A package from Costco, one from Amazon 3 different flower deliveries for my wife and then a woman from Health Canada. Apparently, she showed up to check on my daughter to ensure that she is isolating at home and not galavanting around. Wow! I thought that everyone was on their honour once they got home. Wow, they actually come to your house and check to make sure your staying home?...........that’s nuts. Yes…we had no idea. Totally unannounced. I just opened the door and there was a young lady standing there with her ID and she asked for my daughter and asked her to show some picture ID to ensure that she was actually who she is. Otherwise my wife could have said she was my daughter if my daughter wasn’t home.
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Post by Bill h on Feb 3, 2022 14:55:23 GMT
Wow, they actually come to your house and check to make sure your staying home?...........that’s nuts. Yes…we had no idea. Totally unannounced. I just opened the door and there was a young lady standing there with her ID and she asked for my daughter and asked her to show some picture ID to ensure that she was actually who she is. Otherwise my wife could have said she was my daughter if my daughter wasn’t home. I’ll be driving thru Canada in a little more then 4 months. I’m sending all our guns down by other means but I will have a German Shepherd with me and Canada is strict about dogs like that. We’re actually trying to figure out what it’s going to take to get him thru there. My wife and I are both vaccinated but we are still in the process of figuring out what’s required by Canada in that regard, booster needed, paperwork and stuff like that. It’s no cakewalk anymore that’s for sure. It will take us roughly 3 days to get thru, cutting across and dropping down into the Dakota’s. Our plan is to drive until we cross the border just stopping for bathroom breaks and naps at rest stops. We want to avoid hotels if possible.
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Post by infant on Feb 3, 2022 15:00:24 GMT
So today, I’m gonna be taking my time and shoveling snow a bit at a time.
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Post by spellcaster on Feb 3, 2022 17:31:19 GMT
So today, I’m gonna be taking my time and shoveling snow a bit at a time. I always feel a bit of concern when I hear one of us older guys talk about going out to shovel snow. Glad to hear you're taking your time at it, Rob. We don't want to lose an important member to a heart attack.
I'm having a really easy day today. I spilled something on my only pair of jeans, so I have to do laundry again this morning.
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Post by infant on Feb 3, 2022 18:22:50 GMT
So today, I’m gonna be taking my time and shoveling snow a bit at a time. I always feel a bit of concern when I hear one of us older guys talk about going out to shovel snow. Glad to hear you're taking your time at it, Rob. We don't want to lose an important member to a heart attack.
I'm having a really easy day today. I spilled something on my only pair of jeans, so I have to do laundry again this morning.
No need to be concerned, although I’m not in the greatest of shape. I’m basically “pear” shaped. 😁 I have a small snowthrower that I tend to use if it’s deep snow and today I did a hybrid clearing by pushing the snow to one side of the driveway by shovel and then used the snowthrower to move it over the snowbanks already on my lawn. I also decided to go out a few times today to clean the snow as we are supposed to get 8-12 inches overall and it’s easier to shovel 4 inches at a time 3 times today than it is to shovel 12 inches at once.
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Post by Die Bullen on Feb 3, 2022 19:23:18 GMT
Man something is going down on or near my street. In the past half hour I have seen dozens of county and town police speeding by, doing u-turns in the street and generally cruising around the neighborhood like they are looking for something. Pretty freaky!
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Post by Die Bullen on Feb 3, 2022 19:32:21 GMT
Yes…we had no idea. Totally unannounced. I just opened the door and there was a young lady standing there with her ID and she asked for my daughter and asked her to show some picture ID to ensure that she was actually who she is. Otherwise my wife could have said she was my daughter if my daughter wasn’t home. I’ll be driving thru Canada in a little more then 4 months. I’m sending all our guns down by other means but I will have a German Shepherd with me and Canada is strict about dogs like that. We’re actually trying to figure out what it’s going to take to get him thru there. My wife and I are both vaccinated but we are still in the process of figuring out what’s required by Canada in that regard, booster needed, paperwork and stuff like that. It’s no cakewalk anymore that’s for sure. It will take us roughly 3 days to get thru, cutting across and dropping down into the Dakota’s. Our plan is to drive until we cross the border just stopping for bathroom breaks and naps at rest stops. We want to avoid hotels if possible. Holy cow that is a heck of a drive. How will you manage that without going to a hotel- that's got to be like 2000 miles in Canada alone? Almost wonder if somehow it is easier to fly with the dog to the US with your wife- but then of course you'd have to drive alone. Luckily you have time to figure this out but man that is going to be grueling.
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Post by zontar on Feb 3, 2022 19:47:00 GMT
So today, I’m gonna be taking my time and shoveling snow a bit at a time. I always feel a bit of concern when I hear one of us older guys talk about going out to shovel snow. Glad to hear you're taking your time at it, Rob. We don't want to lose an important member to a heart attack.
I'm having a really easy day today. I spilled something on my only pair of jeans, so I have to do laundry again this morning.
That’s what the kids are for, but it is not always an option
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Post by infant on Feb 3, 2022 20:49:25 GMT
Yes…we had no idea. Totally unannounced. I just opened the door and there was a young lady standing there with her ID and she asked for my daughter and asked her to show some picture ID to ensure that she was actually who she is. Otherwise my wife could have said she was my daughter if my daughter wasn’t home. I’ll be driving thru Canada in a little more then 4 months. I’m sending all our guns down by other means but I will have a German Shepherd with me and Canada is strict about dogs like that. We’re actually trying to figure out what it’s going to take to get him thru there. My wife and I are both vaccinated but we are still in the process of figuring out what’s required by Canada in that regard, booster needed, paperwork and stuff like that. It’s no cakewalk anymore that’s for sure. It will take us roughly 3 days to get thru, cutting across and dropping down into the Dakota’s. Our plan is to drive until we cross the border just stopping for bathroom breaks and naps at rest stops. We want to avoid hotels if possible. You may want to get in touch with Canada Customs and ask them these questions. I don’t know if you would be required to isolate when you cross the border or what needs to be done. As far as I know, you need a negative PCR test that is less than 72 hrs old in order to get into Canada. You may be given another PCR test when you get into Canada, like my daughter. you may also need to talk to the US border officials to see what problems you may encounter crossing back into the US.
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Post by Bill h on Feb 3, 2022 20:59:53 GMT
I’ll be driving thru Canada in a little more then 4 months. I’m sending all our guns down by other means but I will have a German Shepherd with me and Canada is strict about dogs like that. We’re actually trying to figure out what it’s going to take to get him thru there. My wife and I are both vaccinated but we are still in the process of figuring out what’s required by Canada in that regard, booster needed, paperwork and stuff like that. It’s no cakewalk anymore that’s for sure. It will take us roughly 3 days to get thru, cutting across and dropping down into the Dakota’s. Our plan is to drive until we cross the border just stopping for bathroom breaks and naps at rest stops. We want to avoid hotels if possible. Holy cow that is a heck of a drive. How will you manage that without going to a hotel- that's got to be like 2000 miles in Canada alone? Almost wonder if somehow it is easier to fly with the dog to the US with your wife- but then of course you'd have to drive alone. Luckily you have time to figure this out but man that is going to be grueling. We considered flying the dog but neither one of us want to put him thru that kind of stress. He rides pretty good, so it shouldn’t be a big deal. We both have trucks and we’re bringing them down so we’ll be driving alone anyway. We will have radios to communicate rather then trying to use the phone. The drive will take 10-11 days. Not stopping for a hotel was only during the Canada part of the trip. Right now we’re planning on the info we have as far as Canada is concerned, we still have lots of questions after researching online, I think I am going to have to call Canada’s border authorities and find out some moe details on traveling thru the country. Your right, the drive from ak to the lower 48 border is almost half the trip, not sure we can do it without stopping at least once.
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Post by Bill h on Feb 3, 2022 21:03:00 GMT
I’ll be driving thru Canada in a little more then 4 months. I’m sending all our guns down by other means but I will have a German Shepherd with me and Canada is strict about dogs like that. We’re actually trying to figure out what it’s going to take to get him thru there. My wife and I are both vaccinated but we are still in the process of figuring out what’s required by Canada in that regard, booster needed, paperwork and stuff like that. It’s no cakewalk anymore that’s for sure. It will take us roughly 3 days to get thru, cutting across and dropping down into the Dakota’s. Our plan is to drive until we cross the border just stopping for bathroom breaks and naps at rest stops. We want to avoid hotels if possible. You may want to get in touch with Canada Customs and ask them these questions. I don’t know if you would be required to isolate when you cross the border or what needs to be done. As far as I know, you need a negative PCR test that is less than 72 hrs old in order to get into Canada. You may be given another PCR test when you get into Canada, like my daughter. you may also need to talk to the US border officials to see what problems you may encounter crossing back into the US. Yep, that’s what we’re going to to, the online information is all over the place. I really have more concerns with the dog then I do covid. I’ll give them a call, might not be as bad as think.
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Post by Die Bullen on Feb 3, 2022 21:32:23 GMT
Holy cow that is a heck of a drive. How will you manage that without going to a hotel- that's got to be like 2000 miles in Canada alone? Almost wonder if somehow it is easier to fly with the dog to the US with your wife- but then of course you'd have to drive alone. Luckily you have time to figure this out but man that is going to be grueling. We considered flying the dog but neither one of us want to put him thru that kind of stress. He rides pretty good, so it shouldn’t be a big deal. We both have trucks and we’re bringing them down so we’ll be driving alone anyway. We will have radios to communicate rather then trying to use the phone. The drive will take 10-11 days. Not stopping for a hotel was only during the Canada part of the trip. Right now we’re planning on the info we have as far as Canada is concerned, we still have lots of questions after researching online, I think I am going to have to call Canada’s border authorities and find out some moe details on traveling thru the country. Your right, the drive from ak to the lower 48 border is almost half the trip, not sure we can do it without stopping at least once. Of course the truth is that 4 months from now the covid regulations will probably be completely different, but probably not different for the dog. Although I have to think that you are not the first American with a pit bull or German shepherd to travel across Canada
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Post by Die Bullen on Feb 3, 2022 21:36:20 GMT
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